No Bad vibes
Who all remembers Instagram's massive purge of fake accounts back in 2014? Whether it was three or three thousand, pretty much everyone lost followers that day including celebrities, some of which lost millions of followers in seconds. Well, Instagram is back at it again. The social media site announced that they would begin implementing certain algorithms that will determine and remove accounts that are fake. Not only that, they're taking it one step further from their last purge by also removing fake likes and comments as well. This is all being done in an effort to promote and maintain "authentic" engagement rather than inauthentic activity purchased through third-party apps.
Honestly the whole purge is a mood we can all get behind. A new year is approaching and what better than to start off 2019 without all the fake people weighing you down in real life? Most of us have had the unfortunate experience of dealing with at least one toxic person in our lifetime and we know how damaging these people can be. You might not realize in the moment that someone you care about is toxic but once you know the signs, these people are pretty easy to weed out.
So what do you want to look out for? True friends and loved ones care about you. They want what's best for you and when you're happy, they're happy. Healthy relationships make you feel good and give you confidence. You feel supported in times of struggle and encouraged when you're happy. What you put into the relationship, you get back from the other person. Toxic people don't make any of this possible. In your time of need, they'll either be nowhere to be found or they'll find a way to twist your struggle so that it's about them. Even when it seems like they care about you, they leave you feeling drained and bad about yourself more often than not. That's because toxic people have a lot of issues within themselves and instead of trying to fix them, they just unload it on those around them. Even if they're not doing it intentionally, it's still harmful for you and they need to be dropped.
Cutting out toxic people from your life can be easier said than done because they rely heavily on you to project their own issues and avoid truly dealing with them. They'll fight hard to keep you around so that they can keep using you. But you need to remind yourself of two important things. One, you deserve to be happy and if someone is always causing you to feel miserable or bad about yourself, then you are by no means a bad person for leaving them behind. And two, you can't save or fix another person no matter how hard you try. Only they can fix themselves so leave them to it and focus on yourself instead. Toxic people are attracted to those with low self esteems like moths to light so the best way to avoid them is to find your own confidence.
Misery loves company but positivity is infectious. Always surround yourself with people who are truly supportive and who inspire you to be better. Be conscious of your own energy that you're putting out and make sure that you're not adding to the negativity. Social media has often been cited for the negative effects it can have on self esteem but it also has the power to be good. You can find so many positive role models and sources online that can be great for you. Below we included some of our favorite influencers who are inspirational and promote positivity.
Make self growth an active effort in your life. Take a personal inventory and work out any toxic traits that you might have yourself. Don't just cut out negative people but also negative habits that might curb your own happiness or the happiness of others. You deserve to be happy, to feel loved, and to be successful. You have all the potential to make these things happen and no one should ever tell you otherwise. If someone does try it, just do like Instagram and get rid of them.